Love as Revolution? or not-

Those who restrain desire, do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained; and the restrainer or Reason usurps its place and governs the unwilling. And being restrained, it by degrees becomes passive, till it is only the shadow of desire. Some of us have fallen in love with the pleasure of loving without reserve - passionately enough to offer our love the magnificent bed of revolution. The Revolution of Everyday Life, Raoul Vaneigem


this quote is really interesting... the whole "bed of revolution" part...

is there some space left for the romantic or even eternal there? what is the lover trying to revolt against- himself? and does that not make the other but a convenient tool for the expression of his aggressive will or craving of power rather than a true lover/friend/fellow human being?

often times i find the repressed passion argument is just an intellectual excuse for applying Sade, Freud, Darwin and Nietzche to justify sex w no attachment, which in my experience usually means the cute smart edgy guy you're with is really just another queer allergic to love and trying to hide it under the veneer of an often times derivative and ultimately unsatisfying structure of life and the universe.

thoughts?